How to Manage Your Relationship problems and avoid falling into Crisis

No separation occurs immediately, from one moment to another, starting with facts that do not give them the importance they deserve. We let things that we analyze in a sincere and honest with your partner.

When you present something that threaten the harmony that produces dissatisfaction, which causes discomfort in one of the two, must be resolved by both, with love and respect immediately.

Here comes a key element to preserve a relationship.

Any difficulty or inconvenience that might occur, it must be solved immediately.

Every problem in the relationship must be solved and delete it. No matter if small or seemingly harmless. Failure to do so, having indecision, is to sustain the problem. Keep it in reserve, keep in our mind, is to create a basis for any assumptions that will help solve it.

The imagination in these cases is bad, we can remove too much from reality.

Many choose a strategy to overcome the differences they have, to stop speaking to each other. They may avoid the offense verbally, but it can slowly increase the resentment and bitterness.

It is important to control what is real and recognize what is just the fruit of our imagination. The bringing to light what bothers us, that which does not allow us to be calm helps us to clarify the obscure points.

A healthy self-esteem will allow us to be very objective, will help us find within ourselves the truth, without wanting to impose the "other" we believe, or pursue only our interest in the problem.

Most of the problems and arguments presented in the pair, occur not because they have different views, but because one of the two attempts to impose its views on the other. Often women do not approve of what a man thinks, because he does not value their point of views or treated with affection.

When man and woman is hard to appreciate their differences come in terms of the discussion.

When we have something that bothers us in the relationship with our partners, we must ask:

What is the problem I have in my mind or my heart that I have not yet been resolved?

We are different and imperfect, but that knowledge should lead me to address our differences in a respectful manner so they will not mistreat or harm the relationship completely.

It requires us to be, objective, clear, and accurate, as we enter into dialogue with our partner, on the problem or difference that affects us.

We can not be vague, we must fully identify what causes us discomfort in the relationship, not wanting to solve several problems at once. We must be aware that a problem is to face it and solve it, without trying to find reasons to justify their existence.

Both should be fully aware that in a relationship, sooner or later the problems are, but as they arise must be solved with solutions for both favorable and not seeking only personal gain.

Selfishness is often the biggest obstacle to reaching an understanding between two people.

Anything however trivial we must put the knowledge of "other." There are important issues, education of children, religion, the kind of work we will develop the site to buy or build the house, the place selected for our vacation, and so on., Which usually ends being the cause of separation.

Few couples end up splitting a cause of "background". I believe that no lawyer has had to meet a partner because ... "But we want much, we could not agree on if we save money planning to spend on vacations or we're going to Europe."

The major difficulties are almost always minor problems.

"All he wants a weekend is to watch their football on television, or read your favorite book. If you do not go out can go all weekend without showering. Then ask why my lack of enthusiasm to make love" .

Seemingly unimportant things, but have a great ability to cause irritation and annoyance more than anything really important problem. Then when they come to these little tired too, transform them into major differences.

For your peace of mind,

Bernard Silver.

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